Diagnosed ADHD. What Now?
Your child has been diagnosed ADHD and what seemed to be a normal life has been turned upside down. In some way you feel relieved to have a name and explanation for the strange behavior your childe has that took your world by storm. At least you now know why the school and maybe other people too, says that your child is disruptive, uncontrollable, and a trouble maker. However, what is the next step?
You Still Have A Normal Child
Firstly, almost all child neurologists will agree that you should not think that your child is abnormal or have a brain defect. It might be true that your child act out of the ordinary, but this does not mean your kid is abnormal, or have something wrong with his or her brain. It is commonly found that the school setting or parenting methods are not optimally suitable. Before you take any drastic steps such as accepting medication, reputable child neurologists will tell you to first see if the problem might not be the school or conditions in your home that are causing this out of the ordinary behavior.
Giving drugs to children to treat ADHD is a very controversial topic. Many doctors believe that giving ADHD drugs to children is just a way of suppressing their behavior and do not address the problem causing the behavior problems. One must clearly understand that there is a huge difference between a child that truly suffers from ADHD and a normal child that are simply being a busy, healthy, naughty kid at times. It is important to remember that you can not expect a child to act normal when he is bored and stuck in an overcrowded classroom. The rule should be that drugs should be the last resort and used only in instances where there are really serious problems.
The Importance of Therapy
When your child is diagnosed ADHD, it is vital to know that this is not something you will be able to cure overnight or in a day or two. Dealing with ADHD requires the involvement of skilled people such as a psychologist who specializes in ADHD, your family doctor, and school teachers. You as a parent play the main part in the success of your child’s treatment. Substandard parenting is not the cause of ADHD, but poorly organized living conditions will certainly increase the problem.
What You Can and Should Do
Regardless if you choose to make use of medication or not, you should make effort to make changes and improve conditions at home and combine all therapy measures to function optimally. Routine and specific structure at home is a very important factor in treating ADHD. You need to make sure that your kid knows exactly when it is time to do homework, do his or her chores, time for meals, watching television, playing outside, bed time and time to wake up. Be sure to be consistent with these routines and should your child do not keep to the rules, that there are consequences you will have to suffer. This however means that you will have to make sure that your child clearly knows what is expected of him or her and that they understand. Further, you need to stress and reward good behavior.
The Four Golden ADHD Parent Rules
Rule No 1: Ensure that you maintain a positive relationship with your child and always look for something to praise.
Rule No 2: Regardless of how upset or angry you are, never yell or fight. You will not be able to achieve any positive result by acting negatively. Stay calm and collected even if you feel you are about to explode. Draw back from an emotional or potentially tense situation and only react or discuss it once everyone is calm and relaxed.
Rule No 3: Ensure that your child and his living conditions and area are constantly structured and organized.
Rule No 4: Repeat the first three rules continuously and be unrelenting.
There is no quick fix for dealing with a child that is diagnosed ADHD. The best advice is to be patient, persistent in a loving, positive, and caring way and by keeping up with the suggested therapy even if it feel at times it does not work.